My blog (and now Facebook) friend Tankgirl inspired me to write this post. It has taken so very long for me to sit down and just be with my feelings and thoughts at the same time. If I could describe my life in one word, it would be “harried.” Putting the kids into public school has been such a drastic change. I’m getting my job done before they get home, usually, as well as some work around the house (or I may be running errands or at appointments). This way I can help them with homework, music practice, be sure they move along with chores, have a snack, etc. Then it’s dinner time! There’s not really much time to unwind during the day. I’m always on the move. And it’s good to feel productive–it really is. It’s just a different sort of productive.
Because I’ve focused so much on the kids–helping them to adjust to the in’s and out’s of attending school, homework, etc.–and on making sure my husband, who works so much and then is very active in his own extracurricular activities, is comfortable and taken care of, guess who hasn’t been getting as much TLC?
YOU GUESSED IT: Yours Truly.
I learned today that (and I’ve told myself this a million times) it is absolutely true that if I do not exercise in the morning, there is a 95% chance it will not happen. Not to say I’m not moving around, because, oh my gosh, I am–and I do like to do outside work like weeding, mowing, etc. But it’s not the same as walking or biking. Those two exercises are my favorites. I did run some a few days ago as part of my walk, but I don’t just go on runs. My knee acts up a bit, and then I can’t do anything, so I don’t push it and I’m all good with that.
So tomorrow morning, I will be off on a walk, and I know I’ll love myself a little more for that. It feels good and I can sing my favorite music loudly, which I love, and have always done. Embarrasses the children. Well, mainly my daughter. But who cares. Anyway, it’s better to make someone laugh than not, IMO.
Eating has been not great, and I’ve definitely put on a few pounds due to lack of focus in my diet as well as not as much or as intense exercise as I used to perform. Not to mention I AM TURNING 40 IN JUST 1.5 MONTHS! So my metabolism is becoming quite snail-like which is undesirable but “is what it is.” Annoying, just another thorn in my side, not that I want to be a big fat whiner, but apparently am presently.
I’m still playing the cello, which is great. Although I’m not able to practice as much as I like. I did get a few good sessions in this week. I call my cello practice Music Therapy because honestly, it is. I feel comfortable and light when I play, even when I’m screwing up. I love to play viola and piano as well, although I can only play a little while on the viola due to some weird shoulder issue that crops up after a few songs. The piano is loads of fun, and since we now own a real piano, it is played daily by my son, and usually by me as well. It’s lovely. Music is one of those things that just takes me away from all the crap!
I also love listening to music, and have for as long as I can remember. I think back to when I was about 8 years old, visiting my father for the summer and listening to Linda Ronstadt, Pat Benatar, Sheena Easton, Barbra Streisand, using his huge headphones which seem to be coming back into style. I never wanted to be anywhere else except near the stereo with those headphones. I learned to love REO Speedwagon, Styx, YES, The Doobie Brothers, Pink Floyd, Queen. I was enamored with Madonna and dressed as her for Halloween for several years. Just a few weeks ago, I was able to see Tori Amos, one of my favorite singers, in concert. It was amazing. She played a grand piano and a keyboard at the same time. The keyboard was behind her. She turned and sat sideways on the bench, playing her left hand on the piano and her right hand on the keyboard. Later they swapped the keyboard for an organ, and she played piano and organ together…not to mention singing all of her lyrics! Amazing stuff. I felt privileged to be a part of the audience.
My favorite Tori Amos song is Space Dog:
I used to sing as well, but I haven’t in a long time. I give private vocal lessons to kids now and then. It’s a lot of fun. I may get back into singing sometime. It takes the right person to collaborate with, the right project, the right feeling. It’s not something I can do with just anyone.
So I think I will make a short list of attainable goals for tomorrow. I would like to get back down to where I was weight-wise when I was happier. Or maybe I was just a bit more outgoing or more confident. I’m not really sure if I was or wasn’t. But it always feels that way when you’ve put on some padding, if you know what I mean:
1. Exercise in the morning
2. Drink water (start in the morning)
3. Eat breakfast after exercise
4. Fruit/veg UP — Meat/cheese DOWN
5. Think positive
6. Express gratitude
That seems long enough. I feel sleepy. I wanted to think of something lofty or witty, but I’m too tired. Body needs rest. Awareness is the first step.